Your Shared Household: The Complete Guide
Roles, privacy, messaging: what each member can see and do.
The three household roles
The parent who created the household
Manages the list of children, sends invitations and controls each member's access rights.
The other parent
Has access to the calendar and messaging. Can also invite observers for their own family members (grandparents, new partner…).
View only
Can view the calendar for children they were given access to, without messaging. If the invitation is as “grandparents”, the child profile (school, contacts, growth chart) is also visible in read-only mode. Other observer invitations stay limited to the calendar.
Who can do what?
| Role | Calendar | Messaging | Invite | Manage children | Export PDF | Child profile |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Creator (Parent A) | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ (edit) |
| Co-parent (Parent B) | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | — | ✓ | ✓ (edit) |
| Observer — grandparents invitation | ✓ (allowed children) | — | — | — | — | ✓ (read-only) |
| Observer — other family / relative | ✓ (allowed children) | — | — | — | — | — |
Privacy between households
- ✓Completely separate households
If you have children from different relationships, each household is a separate space. Members of one household cannot see anything from another.
- ✓Messaging per child
Conversations are linked to each child. Only parents with access to that child can read the messages.
- ✓Personalized name
You can rename your household (for example "At Dad's") without other members seeing this change.
- ✓Extended family: each parent’s invitations
For extended family: in household management, each parent only sees members they personally invited (access codes they generated). Observers added by the other parent for their side of the family do not appear in your list — and vice versa. The custody calendar stays shared between both parents in the household. If you export the calendar file and send it to relatives outside the app, that sharing is only between you and them.
Export messages as PDF
Both parents can download a PDF file containing all messages exchanged for a child. The generated document includes the exact date and time of each message, the author's name, both parents' identities (names and email addresses when available), and a SHA-256 integrity seal computed at export time to prove the content has not been altered.
The PDF is laid out with the household name in the header and can be kept as a readable record or attached to any file.
Single-parent household
When creating or managing a household, you can declare a single-parent household: one custodial parent. Grandparents, nannies, or other relatives are invited as observers (read-only calendar) — never auto-assigned as co-parents.
In the simulator, pick “Single mother” or “Single father” under Household: the alternating custody panel is simplified. Extended-family stays are modeled via custody exceptions (amber fill on the calendar), distinct from school holidays (violet border) and co-parent B (orange).
Managing multiple households
If you belong to multiple households:
- 1Open your Profile (top right).
- 2Use the "Switch Family" section to switch.
- 3You can also create a new independent household with the "+" button.